New and Improved

3 Feb 2011 by Anthony J Piparo, 1 Comment »

13[1]How many times over the past decade have you noticed your laundry detergent, dish washing liquid, or other cleaning solution been advertised as “New and Improved?”  Was there something wrong with the old formula?  Didn’t it clean very well?  Weren’t you satisfied with it?  Is the new formula that much better or is there only a subtle difference if any at all?  Manufacturers want to stay one step ahead of the competition so continue to refine their products to keep you, the customer satisfied.   Sometimes we are able to notice the improvements and are pleasantly surprised with the new results.  However, had we not been offered the new and improved product we probably would have been satisfied with and happily continued using the old one.

Unfortunately, when it comes to people we don’t make changes unless we judge ourselves inadequate, lacking, or socially unacceptable.  Our self-image or what we think or feel about ourselves, is very poor.  We don’t like ourselves very much and may, in fact, loathe who we are.  If we have the courage we seek out self-help books or take self-improvement classes to improve that part of us that we find unacceptable.   It’s not that we want to change, but something in our life is not working and we feel we have to change.

The problem with feeling we have to or need to change is that we are proceeding from a place of weakness.   Not a good starting point.  Also, labeling the change as self-help or self-improvement extracts a cost because it only confirms our poor self-image.  “I’m not good enough as I am and need to change who I am.”

Because we don’t like change and only attempt it because we don’t like who or what we are, we want the change to occur as fast and as painlessly as possible.  If it doesn’t, then our self-image plummets further. People who proceed from a place of weakness or those with poorer self-images are less likely to persevere in the face of difficulty.  We give up on ourselves.  “I can’t do this.”  “I’ll never be able to do that.”  “I am just not good enough or deserving of something better.”  So we resign ourselves to a life of mediocrity or worse.  Poor self-talk doesn’t help you make the changes you want.  So you have to be very careful about what you say to yourself.  You have to be very careful about how you feel about yourself.  You have to be very careful about what you believe of and expect from yourself.

If we can approach change as something we want to do, something that we deserve because we are worth it, then there is no urgency.  We can be patient with ourselves, not become critical if we relapse into old behaviors because we know we can do it.  The destination becomes less important and the process is what drives us.  In fact, we might even find that change is fun.  We revel and feel successful with each small step forward and that motivates us to continue.  You see, nothing motivates more than success. As Brian Tracy, pre-eminent sales and entrepreneurship expert states, “When you develop yourself to the point where your belief in yourself is so strong that you know you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, your future will be unlimited.”

The goal of self-mastery is to develop the best you possible.  This is a lifelong pursuit, because as the old adage states, nothing lasts forever.  What works well one day, doesn’t the next.  When our behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, expectations, and actions no longer get us the kind of results we want we discard them for new ones.  Just like laundry detergent manufacturers who continue to research new and improved ways of cleaning laundry to keep you satisfied, you continue to research new and improved ways of living.

And if things get tough and aren’t proceeding as quickly or as easily as you would like, remember, “You are perfect just as you are; not in spite of your flaws, but because of them.  They make you the unique expression of love your Creator intended.”

So tell me. “What does the new and improved you look like?”

One Comment

  1. Debbie says:

    I never thought of it that way. When you come from a point of NEEDING to change, it is from a position of weakness. Good point and so true! It also shows a lack of acceptance and resistance to “what is.” Which, in my experience, only results in pain and struggle.

    I needed to hear this because I am getting impatient for things in my life to progress and move forward. I just have to relax and embrace things as they are right now!
    Debbie recently posted..Looking Without Seeing

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